This Unquiet Mind

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Healing: Part 4 of a History with Relationship OCD

Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 There was no light-bulb moment when I realized that casual relationships were not for me. Some of those relationships lingered, and were there for me in moments of need when I’d broken up with yet another boyfriend. As I’ve written this

Casual Encounters: Part 3 of a History With Relationship OCD

Part 1 | Part 2 During this writing I found out that the Internet Archive captured my OkCupid dating profile from 2009, right before I met Damien. Here’s a snippet of how I presented myself to the twentysomething men of Portland. My Self-Summary: I'm a fairly normal,

Trial and Error: Part 2 of a History With Relationship OCD

Part 1 I skated through my last two years of college after my first ex-boyfriend left for a job in Hawaii. I had a few good friends and a retail job, and was somehow making good grades in spite of being so depressed that I sometimes slept through classes.

The First Time I Broke My Heart: Part 1 of a History With Relationship OCD

In early 2017 I was crying on the floor of my boyfriend’s rented room, where he was living after I kicked him out. We were trying to reconcile, but I’d started to feel that familiar, roiling uncertainty about our relationship. It had me paralyzed, afraid, unsure what to